Self-esteem is a word that is a combination of two others: Self-esteem. That is: Self-Love. 

Self-esteem is the way we perceive ourselves. The love we profess for ourselves and with which we look at each of our actions. The value we place on ourselves as beings in the world. 

The problem is that we live in a world that from a young age decides for us what is valuable and what is not and, incidentally, does not stop reminding us of all those things that we do not reach. 

Human beings function a lot from comparison.

This is not a problem in principle, but it begins to be so when we live among advertisements of people with perfect lives and dazzling physiques, social networks that show us the success of others and environments that are usually dedicated to crushing our self-esteem. 

Most of us end up with low self-esteem and high self-demands about what we should be doing, achieving, or living. 

If this happens to you, it’s time to slow down. To recalculate route and start deciding for yourself what you place value on in your life. Find out why you already have enough value and what you want to do with it. 

The process of increasing or healing your self-esteem is the process of learning to love yourself, to value yourself for who you are rather than for what you want to become or have been told you should become. 

It’s the process of letting go of ballast and dedicating yourself to yourself. 

Why is it important to rely on a professional?
A psychologist knows how self-esteem works. What makes her suffer, what makes her grow, and she knows how to help her patients manage it in the right way. She knows how to provide solid and reinforcing support to the patient so that they feel capable of moving forward and healing them. It is able to accompany you on the path of changing the way you manage life, your identity and your value in the world to help you regain the feeling of feeling valid and sufficient. 

I don’t know why, but when it comes to a broken engine, no one doubts having a mechanic. It’s almost inevitable. In American movies, the father of a family who wants to be a plumber to save a few dollars is always ridiculed and in the end ends up with water up to his ears. 

The problem is that all our lives we are invited to self-manage. To know how to control ourselves and keep ourselves stable. But if you notice, we haven’t been taught to do that at any point!

In my head it sounds as absurd as if someone expected me to know how to fix my car without touching a mechanics book… I don’t even try, and if I tried I would get frustrated and waste a lot of time in vain before calling a professional. It may even have broken my engine even more. 

Your engine is the mind that comes without instructions from birth. It’s totally normal to have someone who already knows how it works and can make things much easier and more enjoyable for you.