9 sex tips for women: how to become better in bed
1/ Learn to kiss, properly
Full-on kissing boosts levels of dopamine in the brain, a desire-spiking neurotransmitter in both men and women, according to a study in The American Journal of Medicine.
To get your other half going, try this piece of sex advice: trace their lips slowly with your tongue, or softly bite the edge of their lower lip with your teeth, advises sexologist Carol Queen.
2/ Play with their ears
In a survey, ears ranked just behind the scrotum as a body part that, when touched, can help men reach their peak. Who knew it was such a turn on?
Add this to your list of sex techniques: try delicately nibbling or licking their ears as they’re getting closer to orgasm, while whispering something like: ‘Do you like it when I touch you?’
3/ Don’t be scared of the scrotum
No biting or pinching, please: this area is extra vulnerable to sharp impact.
So what is up its street and worth ranking in the nine sex tips for women? Gentle sucking, squeezing or cupping, which may help some men reach climax more easily during sex, says sex coach Charlie Glickman.
When it comes to foreplay, use this technique from Harwick: ‘Start with your hand around both balls, then bring your fingertips together over them – like you’re picking up a napkin off the floor.’
4/ Get involved in the neck
Their neck is as tingle-triggering as your own, and a study published in the journal Ergonomics found that the nape loves low-frequency vibrations.
Take advantage by kissing the back of their neck with your mouth slightly open, and hum. ‘The combination of heat and vibrations will help prompt some serious sensations,’ sex expert Emily Morse says.
Or dip into your toy drawer for a fingertip vibe and massage their hairline.
Things not going quite to plan? Make sure you’re not making one of the six biggest mistakes couples make in the bedroom before carrying on.
5/ Don’t be shy with the shaft
Men rated the shaft tops for orgasmic sensitivity when compared with the rest of their nether regions, says a survey published in the journal BJU International.
Because the internal erectile tissues lie deep beneath the skin’s surface, when it comes to how to get your grip on, the best sex tips for women will tell you that many guys like the shaft handled pretty firmly. Form a fist around it, moving up and down and adding pressure as you go.
6/ Pay their nipples some attention
They’d like a little TLC, FYI. Men who were surveyed for a study in the journal Cortex admitted that the nips are one of their top hot spots.
We suggest sucking on one while stroking your their penis with your hand. ‘Adding the two erogenous zones together can be very pleasurable,’ she says.
7/ Get involved with the head
The head of the penis, or the glans, has significantly more nerves than the shaft, so don’t skimp on the attention. (The tip is basically the closest thing a person with a penis has to a clitoris, though it’s not nearly as sensitive, says Cordeau. We win in that department.)
After coating your fingers in lube, ‘loop them into an O shape and slide them over the glans’. Then use short, slow pumps that tighten around the tip.
During oral, run your tongue all over the glans and use some soft suction.
8/ Hit a bum note
Glickman calls the prostate gland (located a finger’s length inside the bum) the ‘male G-spot’ in his book The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure.
To hit this orgasm-inducing region, you’ll need to insert a (well-lubricated) digit into your man’s behind, directed toward the front of his body, says Queen.
If neither you nor him is up for that, you can also stimulate the prostate by touching the perineum.
9/ Have a perineum party
Located behind the scrotum and before his rear entry, this spot contains a gent’s ejaculatory muscles – which, when massaged, can make his blast-off feel even more intense, says Glickman.
Try Morse’s oral-sex advice: ‘Use your thumb to gently rub the perineum in a circular motion, keeping in rhythm with what your mouth is doing. Right before he is about to finish, press the spot firmly to give him an orgasm to top all orgasms.’
Then ask for anything you want in return, obvs.
